Love Thy Partner
Mrs. Blue |
Since this is a blog about partnership then I would like to start it with loving your better half. Here’s a famous sample vow: I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live. Some of you may have used this actual vow or made your own and however it was I am sure it meant so much between the two of you at your wedding day and I hope until this day. As the years go by I am hoping that you are as excited to hurry home and spend time with your spouse and family. Talking with my spouse is one of the joyful benefits I share in our marriage. Going through the daily grind in life, it is comforting at the end of the day to talk with my husband. The conversations range from silly babbling to serious decisions or concerns, and mostly about the funny escapades of little Ms. Pink. Whether I am excited to share some great news or releasing my stress I am secure that he is always there to listen. I tell him everything, his opinion matters so much to me; he eases out my insecurities and understands my fears. Our decisions are a process of talking things through, weighing and sharing our responsibility together. It touches a nerve whenever I hear – “I’m still talking to my wife even when she has passed away”. I don’t even want to think that either one of us would die soon but the line resonates how much a couple feels about each other. Marriage is sharing everything, going through everything together and I think that is what God says “and the two shall become one flesh” Mark 10:8a |
Love Love Love
Mrs. Blue |
Introduction Since it is the month of love I want to write a series of blogs regarding – LOVE. To start off I would like to lift a famous verse from the bible: “Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7, 13) Love comes in different forms, with people, in relationships, under circumstances, spanned time, continents, even imaginations and history. We have cheered, condemned, laughed, gossiped, cried, and intrigued about love. Much has been written in fiction or in real life. In fact some stories don’t seem to be complete until the love element is included within the plot. At the beginning of time it was the love of a creator that fashioned us into the same being. The love of the first man to his wife that gave the first scandalous plot with a fruit mixed into it. At the end of it all, it is still that same perfect love that will save us. Wouldn’t you agree then that LOVE does make the world go round?
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9-ball, Corner Pocket
Mr. Red |
A True Friend Did you know that I just love playing billiards? I’m not that good but I do have a passion for playing it. I enjoy the challenge of finding out how to hit the cue ball and discovering how the balls roll and behave as they run and bounce against the rails of the billiard table. What makes me like playing billiards most of all is being able to play with a very good friend. I used to play with a good friend of mine and we played a lot! We were single then, so we had loads of time to play against each other. Whenever we can, whenever our schedules permitted it and whenever we had money to spare, we head on over to the nearest and best billiard hall we can find and spend hours playing. There were even times when we played for more than 24 hours! While playing though, we would discuss about a ton of things. We would talk about girls we liked, how we would approach them and woo them, we would talk about the news and debate each other’s political views, we shared jokes and laughed at each other’s embarrassing moments… but most of all, we would talk about… tadaaa…. Theology! Yep! You read that right. We talked about theology a lot while eating a plate of peanuts and drinking some soft drinks. Yep. You read that right again. We both don’t drink beer or alcohol – and we are non-smokers. Well, I lost touch with this friend of mine for many years owing to the fact that I transferred to a different city and sad to say… because I was avoiding him. You see, I did a very bad thing. It was so bad that I don’t want to mention what it was nor share with you its details here. Maybe someday I will, but not now… maybe never. To make a long story short, I thus avoided this friend, fearing not only his disapproval but his condemnation of me and of what I did. I told myself, it was over. That non-communication equates to the death of our friendship. A lot of things have happened since then. Transferred to different places, changed living conditions, etc. Until we finally settled to our current location. We’ve been staying here at our place for more than 2 years now and I haven’t met anyone I’ve known before. It’s hard for me to make friends nowadays since I spend most of my days at home taking care of our daughter, doing chores, and if I’m fortunate enough to have a new client, working online. One night, I was praying to God to give me direction with regards to my life and my family. I was down and troubled and at my wits’ end with regards to our financial situation. The following morning, I was taking Little Miss P to school when I heard someone call me by my nickname. I turned around and guess what! It was him. My best friend. It just happened that he and his wife (yes, he’s married now) just live beside the school where my daughter was studying. To top it off, his wife is a teacher at the school where Little Miss Pink was attending! It’s been eight years since we last met so we made a date and decided to catch up. We had a long talk and it was a good one. It turned out that he was looking for me. His wife told me that he hasn’t stopped talking about me through the years. What made it all such a blessing was finding out that he didn’t condemn me, and neither did he hate me enough to end our friendship. Instead, he recognized that I was moving forward with my life and was taking steps of faith, a little at a time. He prayed for me and my family. Maybe it was just coincidence that God brought me and my family to this city where we live. Maybe it was also coincidence that he brought my best friend to live in this city as well. Maybe it was coincidence that Little Miss Pink studies at the school where my friend’s wife is a teacher. Maybe it’s coincidence that I met my friend the morning after I prayed to God to help ease my burden. We’ve been living 2 blocks away from each other for 2 years and never knew we were close to each other. Yes. Maybe it’s just coincidence. I believe, though, that it’s providence.
"As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend." Proverbs 27:17 (NLT)
Amazing Billiards in Super Slow Motion
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Having fun with games
Mrs. Blue |
Games
One of my favorite pastimes is playing games, whether it’s on a game console, online gaming on the laptop, games on FB and even on the phone. Technological advances have given us gamers a variety of great choices. There is a wide selection of games and you can even pick and choose how to play certain games. The war of game consoles to give high definition quality, larger disk or memory capacity, cutting edge effects, louder and crisper sound effects and music, dramatic and bigger explosions, touchscreen capability, skins, etc. keep pushing the gaming industry forward. They’re even developing technology that lets the person be the controller, if not the console itself. Coming from playing that ping pong game on a DOS system with a green background to a very accurate first shooter sniper game – gamers have truly come a long way. There are also different genres of games – sports, shooting, driving, fighting, combat, and my favorite: RPG – horror RPGs to be accurate. Nothing excites me more than playing at the wee hours of the morning when I plug in the headphones, sit in the darkness with only the eerie light coming from the screen and feeling the controller slowly vibrating as unspeakable terrors unfold right before my eyes. It’s like reading a really good, scary novel or watching a movie – but the best part is: I am part of the story. Modern video games allow such a range of possibilities – driving recklessly in a dream sports car 160 mph with amped music, choosing to become your fave hero and save the world again and again, travelling the world as an adventurer seeking hordes of treasures, being a farmer and watching your plants grow, dancing yourself silly to the latest hip music, dodging bullets and rockets as an agent out to destroy any government you target, exploring the universe with your alien friends, commanding thousands as a Roman emperor or general set on conquering continents, being a chef, a thug, a dinosaur even a plant fighting zombies – play it by yourself or with a team. The prospects are endless enough it can last a lifetime. Yet like any other pastime – it’s a form of relaxation, a stress reliever. But to be honest, when the game is new, it’s so exciting that I forget the time and I get so engrossed with everything in the game. Exciting as it is to escape into those worlds, I put the game down to play tea with my Miss Pink or share a meal or watch DVD with my family, talk nonsense with my husband, go on a tickling spree with Ms. P or simply go out and take pictures of an amazing sunset. The point is: games will undoubtedly be improved in ways I can’t even imagine, yet life still takes my breath away with simple yet important things – better than any game played or invented.
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Where the heart is
Little Miss Pink
Mrs. Blue |
Little Ms. Pink I mentioned earlier that we have a little daughter. We have decided to call her Ms. Pink or simply Ms. P – she is thrilled with the nick. Since the blog is also a testimony of our life ,it is expected that Ms. P would be an integral part of the blog. Current ambition – Chef Difficult subject – Filipino Challenging feat at the moment – saying words with ‘th’ since she lost all four front teeth Favorite game: Spongebob (TV show also) Your world is a hue of pastels in gold and pink and lavender blue
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Poisons and Passions
Modern Families
My Online Emotional Affair–How We Survived It
Mrs. Blue |
How it Started The Confrontation The Last Straw The Way Out The first step I believe is the confrontation and making your wife realize how hurt you are and how much it is destroying your marriage. The second is, you have to make her realize she has to choose. As long as I thought my husband could take it – I wouldn’t have stopped. The third and most important part is her support from you. My husband didn’t push me, instead he supported me – he prodded and listened to the things I needed and enjoyed with this other man. When he knew I was talking about my problems – he wanted to know them and help me with my problems at work. He was more gentle and patient and attentive to my every need. The less dependent i was of the other man, the more I became convinced that it wasn’t fair to any of us. The thing I also appreciated much from my husband was he still trusted me even when i had already betrayed him and that he never involved anyone else with our problem. I know if he involved any other of our friends or relatives I would have reacted differently – more defensive and it would be harder to resolve the conflict. He was just patient and waiting and was there all the time. At times when I felt he wanted to fight with me he courted me instead. I felt so guilty, my husband didn’t need to do this but he won me back by proving he loved me that much and our marriage was worth fighting for. The communication was also constant – it’s also essential because my husband did not only know things but we both realized what was lacking in our marriage. Don’t stop talking even when you’re both emotional and confrontational because at least things will get exposed. Then after patiently waiting he asked when I was going to end it – we pegged a specific date and planned how to end it. In our case since my online guy was also jealous and suspicious, we had to be careful. We decided to close my FB account without him detecting anything. We started telling all my friends that I was deleting my account and opening a better one. We started migrating “chosen friends” – we made sure we did not include friends that knew the other guy. When the day came I went online like any other day and when we said goodbye we deleted my account. A Stronger Union Up to this day I never went back. i still think about it but my husband is all I need. I had cut all communication with him and ended it. Today our marriage is a stronger and we learned a lot from that experience that improved our relationship for the better. (To view an earlier related post by me and my husband, click here.) (In keeping with the spirit of Keeping The Gloves On, I kept the gloves on. – Mr. Red)
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